Recently, if you are a fan of Indian cricketers on social media, you would have noticed that players such as Virat Kohli, Dhawan and Yuvraj Singh shared a video of a young girl being pressurised to recite the numbers while her mother is strictly trying to get her to learn.
The video went viral and the mother has received a lot of flak for intimidating her child into learning. She was finally traced and the child was revealed to be the niece of popular singers Toshi and Sharib Sabri.
When they were contacted, they said that the whole situation was blown out of proportion and the little girl, Haya, their niece, was just behaving very stubbornly.
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The singers said that Kohli and Dhawan do not know about them and Haya’s nature is such that one second after being scolded, she runs off to play. Her nature is such that if she is not pushed, she will not study.
Here is the video that went viral:
https://www.instagram.com/p/BX9ovhvAsbe/?taken-by=virat.kohli
The video was made by Haya’s mother in order to show her brothers and husband how stubborn the little girl had gotten.
Toshi also stressed upon the importance of learning and said that it is okay to ignore their tantrums at times.
He said that she was crying just so that she could go and play. She is a very stubborn child but is also very dear to them. Toshi also said that no one should jump to conclusions after viewing just a short clip on the internet.
“Virat Kohli and Shikhar Dhawan don’t know about us. Hamare bachche ke bare mein humein pata hai naah ki hamara bacha kaisa hai! Uska nature hai waisa… Agle hi pal woh khelne chali jaati hai. Agar aap usko chod do toh woh kahengi main mazzak kar rahi thi. Uske nature ki wajah se chod denge toh woh padai bhi nahi kar paayengi. (We know about our child better. Haya’s nature is such that after being scolded, the next minute she runs off to play. But, because of her nature if we don’t push her, she won’t study.)
“Woh jo rona hota hain, woh us moment ke liye tha taaki uski maa use padaaye na aur khelne de. Chota bachcha hai 2.5-3 saal ka. (All the crying was for that moment so that her mother doesn’t make her study and let her play. Haya is just about 3 years old). It’s not a big issue. Har ghar mein bachon ki alag zidd hoti hai, alag-alag tareeke ke bachche hote hain. [Ye] bachchi bahut zyada ziddi hai [lekin] humari laadli hai. (In every house there are different kind of children. Ours is a very stubborn child but is extremely dear to us)”
“Ek maa ki mamta hai, judgment nahi kar sakte hain. Jisne usko 9 months kokh mein rakha hai. Ab agar bachche zidd karenge toh unko padana likhana chod dein kya? Bachon ko paalna asaan nahi hota. (One can’t judge a mother’s love for the child by seeing a short video. If children throw tantrums, then should we stop teaching them? It’s not easy to raise children). I’m married and have a son. I know how difficult it is to raise a child. Parents have to do double duty by managing both — the children and the household at the same time”
Right or wrong?
While children do have the habit of crying and throwing tantrums to get their way, they must be treated with care, especially when it comes to studies. Maybe if the parents can find a way to make education enjoyable, this whole issue would not have appeared. Having said that, Virat Kohli and other Indian cricketers were absolutely right when they shared the video to increase awareness about such important parenting issues.
